Does he even care??

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Registered: 01-06-2008
Does he even care??
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Sun, 01-06-2008 - 8:58pm


Hi everyone.

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 7:30am

Frankly I don't think you should see this guy anymore. After ten months you should know where you stand with someone, if you don't know by now whether or not he's in love with you then I'm not sure what to say. "A little bit"? What an awful answer. This guy is holding you at arm's length and it doesn't look like that is going to change, even if you lived together.

He has little to no emotional attachment to you at all, but then again you can't ask stupid questions like "would you cry if I broke up with you". There's only one "right" answer and he didn't answer correctly. Who knows, maybe he made up this answer because he didn't like the question. But please don't ask guys stuff like this, it backs them into a corner.

What really stands out to me is this:
"the reason we are taking it so slowly is because we are young (23 and 24) and I have a child, and he is not ready to take on the responsibilities of being a "stepfather" to a child yet."
You can't date someone who "isn't ready yet", you date someone who wants to be with you and your child. He's only 24 years old - I'm 24 and I can't imagine being ready for another 10 years. Is that how long you're willing to wait to pick up the pace in a relationship with a guy who clearly doesn't care that much for you?

It's one thing to take things slowly but I think you're settling for someone who just isn't that interested.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 01-07-2008 - 2:07pm

Welcome to the board glassesrsexy23,


I guess my take on this is a little bit different than the previous posters. I will agree, though, that asking him the question about him being upset if you broke up wasn't a very good idea. You already said that he wasn't an emotional person so you should have been prepared for that when you asked him the question.


To me it seems that you are overanalyzing things too much. I think you are reading too much into him saying you will move in together if you were still together. Obviously he is thinking about a future with you or he wouldn't have even said anything about moving in together.


Are you happy in the relationship? If not, do you think he can make you happy?

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