Does he hide anything from me
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| Fri, 06-22-2007 - 12:20am |
I posted this message on other boards, but would like to hear more suggestion from this board.
Last week, my bf wanted to show me a picture when he was at my place. He used my laptop, logged in his email inbox. When He was done, he not only logged out, but he also went to the browser’s menu and clicked “clear the private data” button. I use Firefox browser, so it deleted all history, Cache, cookies, session stuff. I was sitting next to him when he was doing that. I took quick glances at his inbox, and pretended that I was watching TV. I have a kind of feeling that he is very sensitive on the private stuffs. (It happened before when I tried to delete a picture of me from his cell phone. He took his cell phone back, and said he could delete it). I definitely saw there were lots of emails sent from a name called Laura.
This week I found out his ex’s name is Laura during one conversation. I immediately said that you emailed each other last year (I remembered the emails I saw were sent in 2006). He admitted it. When I asked if they met last year, he said no. I felt that he was not honest on it, since I remember the subject of one email from Laura was “meet you at ….”.
A little background about us, we met online in Summer 2005, dated for 2 months, he broke up with me suddenly. We were back together since Nov, 2006. He and Laura had marriage planned in 2004, but Laura broke it off one week before and moved to another state for her career. He didn’t want to talk about his past. He said that it still hurts him very much when talking about the past and bringing back the memories. That is the reason that I never thought he would email her or meet.
I don’t know if it is ok to tell him what I saw on his mailbox, and asked him to show me his mailbox if he is honest on not meeting her?
Thank you for any suggestion and thoughts.
Shanshan

Welcome to the board iamshanshan,
If he did meet her in 2006 it was probably while you weren't together since you didn't get back together until Nov. 2006. Therefore, he was free to see whoever
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Hi iamshanshan,
Did you see a date on the emails?
Yes. I saw the year of date was 2006 on a couple of emails.
When we started dating, I asked him what happened on his past relationship. He mentioned his ex-girlfriend. She left her. She found a job in another city and she wanted it for her career. That is all I know about his last relationship. Each time when I want to asked more questioned. He said that it still hurt him to think about the details. It will bring back the bad memories. He said he was over it already, but he still didn’t want to talk about it.
Shanshan,
I guess I should have clarified, were any of the emails from Nov or Dec of 2006?
You met online, dated for 2 months, he breaks off suddenly.