Does he only want sex ?
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Does he only want sex ?
| Thu, 08-26-2004 - 1:42am |
I'm asian 31 years old, dating a younger american guy, 25 since a month ago.
I want a relationship from this guy but he claims that he is very busy. He has a company of his own.
We see each other once a week about 2 - 4 hours each date.
After our first date, however, this guy told me that I should see other people too.
This makes me think that he is not serious, he just wants sex for now. And I did give it to him .. with the thought that if I give it to him, he will see me again and again. And maybe as the time passes, he will eventually fall in love with me.
Do you ever experience this ? how did that turn out ? any advice will help.
Thank you ...

first of all this guy only makes time out of his busy schedule to get busy with you.
This story doesn't sound right. I do think that the sex thing is convenient. You and your body are worth more than that especially if you are looking for love. I don't see how giving him sex, is going to make him fall in love with you. In high school I wrote and article for the school paper titled "Is it love or lust". The fact of the matter is you CANT turn lust into love. Many girls are under the impression that when a guy wants a physical relationship it will become an emotional one as well. And since he added that you can see other people too is a red flag. You need to tell him to get his booty elsewhere and you are not putting your heart on the line for convenience.
-Janelle
p.s. let me know how things turn out.
mattysbabylove@yahoo.com
This is one of the biggest mistakes women make:
with the thought that if I give it to him, he will see me again and again. And maybe as the time passes, he will eventually fall in love with me.
Carrie
This man has no intentions of taking the next step with you. You give him what he wants right now and are okay with not having anymore....why would he change that?
He told you to see othe rpeople because that was his plan for himself. I
Thank you so much for your time and advice ..
Yes, right now I dont think there is any future for us except just to be friend.
What I'm doing right now is pulling myself together and not to think too much about him.
But he wants to see me more often than before.
It's like he's scheduling to see me every sunday !
I don't know if I will see him or not .. but I got my stuff in his house.
I still can't deny myself that deep down I still do want to see him ...
This is hard ... sometimes I think "why don't I just enjoy what I have right now ? don't think too much about him being your boyfriend. Period. That will keep me away from problem."
It seems that my mind is trying to compromise with the situation. ???
Or I start changing my mind ??? from wanting him as boyfriend to someone like him, who just wants to have fun.
That's what I can think of, because I have never experienced this before, having fun / just sex with other people. All this time I always have a real relationship.
Anyway, I'll keep you all posted ... Thanks again and I hope you have a wonderful weekend ...