DOES HE REALLY CARE

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Registered: 11-21-2003
DOES HE REALLY CARE
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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 4:19pm
MY BOYFRIEND IS IN A PROGRAM, BECAUSE HE DRINKS, AND HE CAM TO SEE ME ON MOTHERS DAY, AND HE DRANK WHILE HE WAS OUT, AND HAD TO SSTART THE PROGRAM ALL OVER AGAIN. I KNOW HE NEEDS TO BE IN THERE TO BE SOBER AND GET HELP, THIS IS THE SECOND TIME THIS HAS HAPPENED. MEANWHILE, I JUST KEEP WAITING FOR HIM, HE CLAIMS HE IS DEPRESSED THAT WHAT HE WAS DIAGNOSED WITH, AND THEY GAVE HIM MEDICINE, AND I TOLD HIME IF HE DIDN'T LIKE THAT TO TALK TO HIS THERAPIST. HE SAYS HE LOVES ME, AND I FEEL BAD WE'RE SEPARATED, AND I MISS HIM TERRIBLY AND I AM DEPRESSED CONSTANTLY, OVER HIM. HELP!
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Registered: 07-31-2003
In reply to: ecc4
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 7:06pm

Hi there,


If you know that you want to wait for him, then just keep that in the back of your head, and work on you. If you focus all your energies on him and wondering about him, then you'll just drag yourself down too. I know that is easier to say then to do, and I often have to remind myself of that as well. :)


There is another board on iVillage where I have posted a lot of ways to keep your mind clear. Check out the folders on that board. Some of the folders have a lot more to them, so make sure to press the "more" button, especially under the Every Day Tips folder.


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlgogirl


Also, while focusing on yourself, just spend more time with friends and family. Get out of the house. Go to the gym, do things for you. Maybe join a book club, sign up for a class, volunteer. Anything to keep your mind busy.

 

-amy-    "CL-fiesty"

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
In reply to: ecc4
Thu, 05-27-2004 - 12:17pm
THANK YOU! SOMETIMES HE SEEMS VERY DISTANT, AND I KNOW I SHOULD STAY AWAY, AND NOT EVEN CALL TO SEE HOW HE IS DOING. AND HE SAIDS HE LOVES ME, AND I'M SAD MOST OF THE TIME. even though I do the things sometimes you said to do, about keeping myself together. MY LIVING SITUATION IS NOT THE BEST, AND I TOLD HIM I WAS GOING TO LEAVE TOWN, AND HE ASKED ME NOT TO ONE TIME, BUT THEN WE ARE NOT IN OUR OWN PLACE, HE HAS TO KEEP HISSELF STRAIGHTENED OUT, AND HE FLIRTS WITH THE WOMAN IN THE PROGRAM, WHICH IS NEITHER HERE NOR THERE I GUESS.

WELL, I'LL HAVE TO DO THE BEST THING I CAN TO GET ALONG.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-31-2003
In reply to: ecc4
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 11:03pm
If you want this, you can do it. Did you get an opportunity to check that other board that I CL for some tips on how to clear your mind?

 

-amy-    "CL-fiesty"

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
In reply to: ecc4
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 2:22pm
NO, I WAS TRYING TO STAY BUSY, WITH WHAT I DO, I TRIED TO RELAX, AND HE WAS AWOL AGAIN FROM THE PROGRAM, AND RIGHT BACK INTO DETOX, FOR THE THIRD TIME, AND THE RUMOUR WAS HE WAS RUNNING AROUND WITH BAD PEOPLE, I DON'T KNOW IF THERE WAS A WOMAN INVOLVED OR NOT. I CAN VISIT WITH HIM ON SATURDAY, I JUST POST ANOTHER MESSAGE AS I FOUND THIS OUT TODAY, HE WAS MISSING SINCE SATURDAY NIGHT. HE'S BACK IN THE MEDIC UNIT. WELL, I HAD CALLED THE HOSPITAL, HE WAS NOT THERE. THIS IS DRIVING ME CRAZY.

LINDA