Does he really want me or just SEX??
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Does he really want me or just SEX??
| Thu, 10-14-2004 - 2:32pm |
Hi there, don't mind my inglish. I'm writing this message all the way from the Netherlands. I've been dating an older man (7 years older) for 7 months now exclusively. It's going great and I'm crazy about him. When I'm with him he makes me feel special and he's very attentive to what I need. However he has a very demanding job. Sometimes he needs to work up to 14 hours a day. Whenever he has a day off he tries to spend it with me when he's not resting from the day before. As a result sometimes we can only see each other once every three weeks. Since we both enjoy sex very much we try to make it special every time and do it as often as possible. The thing is, I'm getting really confused. I don't know whether he really likes me or whether it's just about the sex. Whenever he talks about the future, I'm always a part of it but he still hasn't introduced me to him folks. I'm afraid to have "the talk" with him since we both decided in the beginning that we were going to take things very slowly. I don't want to scare him off, but how do I figure out whether he likes me or that he's just into the sex??

You have been taking it slow, very slow. You see each other very little and quite a lot of time has passed by. You have every right to see now where this relationship is going. Usually a relationship builds. You spend more time together and do more and more things together as well, including meeting family and friends. If this is not happening in your relationship, it is time to open it up and discuss what's going on. It is normal for you to want more both from him and from a relationship in general. If he isn't able to give it to you, you have to know that, and be clear about what's truly available here.
Have the discussion. Decide what you want in a relationship. If this one can't grow, even thought the sex is great, it may be time to be aware of it and choose to look for more.
Best wishes.
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