Does he want to hit me?
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Does he want to hit me?
| Wed, 04-07-2004 - 12:44am |
My husband of 10 years said something very strange last night. He wondered out loud what it would be like to beat the sh*t out of me. We have been getting along so well for months! I'm not an aggressive person, I do take care of my body and am athletic and participate in many sports. My husband does not and is overweight. I only say that wondering if that might be the problem (?). Could he be jealous of me? Does he feel like he needs to compete with me?
It was more than a little sickening. I kind of ignored that comment, but he said something like it the next day. Now it's scary. Can this just be a verbal thing and I'm overreacting? What is going on?

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As a girl who's been beaten and lived to tell about it, I'd be very freaked out. I can't be with any man who cannot control his temper or shows the slightest signs of misogynous tendencies. Even if he's just punching walls, it's enough for me to walk out on the relationship. It may seem kind of premature, but perhaps you might consider suggesting counseling for you two or for any anger issues he's having.
Please keep us posted. I'm interested in hearing more about this.
Ivy
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I'm afraid things will go back to the way they were a few years ago.
Shay
I was 16 years old and had a boyfriend for a year and a half who was awful to me. He hit me, pushed me, pinned my arms back until I screamed out of fear he would rape me and finally threw me down the stairs. The stairs was when I woke up and realized what I'd gotten myself into. The physical abuse only went on for the last 3 months or so, but the emotional abuse started very early in the relationship and developed slowly until I believed that I really wasn't that great a catch and lucky to have this loser. I finally got myself together and dumped him (not without a swift kick in the groin first, though).
Now I teach workshops on teenage relationship violence and have been a volunteer for a few shelters. It's been an inspiration in the end... but I still wish I had not lived it as long as I did.
So, having been in a situation of abuse, I'm curious to know what else has transpired in last 10 years of your marriage. Does he verbally abuse you or take you for granted?
Ivy
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