Does This Mean He Doesn't Love ME?
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Does This Mean He Doesn't Love ME?
| Tue, 03-09-2004 - 12:40am |
Tonight my SO said he didn't want to have sex. Just wanted to quickly jerk off by himself to porn and that was it even though I offered to go down on him. This isn't the first time he's turned down a blow job. Is this normal? He said he was too tired to have sex.

Well, it is certainly odd for a guy to turn down a blow job for porn, I have nothing against porn, and I watch it sometimes too, but to turn down a blow job isn't exactly normal.
On the other hand, while it is not "normal" I don't think it means that he doesn't love you, but I do think you should talk to him about this.
James
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I have high expectations of my SO and myself. I don't want him to fantasize about others, obviously I can't control that. However, I offer the same to him. If I see an attractive man, I immediately super-impose his image over him. That way, my heart stays true (er) and I don't go wandering off with some insane imaginings. Personally, I think a person's imagination can get them into a lot of trouble.
It's pretty tough to find someone who is willing to meet high ideals in this day and age, but I wouldn't settle for less. Oral sex can be o.k. sometimes, I suppose, but no one should have to feel degraded by the sex act. GOOD sex is about a partnership with both considering the needs of the other as much as their own. Don't sell yourself short. Best wishes.
Some men become addicted to porn. This is a danger. Porn, (which is essentially fantasy
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