DOES THE PAST MATTER???
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DOES THE PAST MATTER???
| Wed, 11-26-2003 - 9:57pm |
I have having several problems in my marrage. My husband uses my past against me. I used to be an escort. Everyday, almost every hour he calls me "bitch" "whore" "slut" etc. He rarely calls me by my first name. What's worst he refuses to have sex with me. I feel so neglected. We've only been married 4 months and I want an annulment. What should I do????

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Some people can accept other people's past without recriminations. Obviously this man can't and there is no need to suffer abuse from him. Get out now before his internal rage turns into something more serious. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment.
He knew what you were when you married, right? Now, if you didn't tell him that until after "I do" - I'm surprised he'd not wnating an annulment.
Erin
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You sound like you already know what you want why wait?
Doesn't sound like theres much to salvage assuming you have spoken to him about this and explained to him how you feel?
I can sort of relate. I was never an escort..but most recently my beau *found out* about a *sort of* one-night stand I had a year ago before I ever met him!! And I was 38 years old and SINGLE!! Sheesh...Took us 5 days to get over that one mind you that was MY fault. I tried to deny it. How silly...eventually I admitted it. At that point, the one nighter was no longer the issue but rather the fact that I lied. Guilty...however, I have made it clear to him that if ever he uses that against me, in any way...I won't tolerate it. He hasn't yet...
Good luck!
Get an annullment as fast as you can. Get out of there. This is not a marriage, it is an extremely damaging, abusive relationship. Your husband is sick and very destructive. Do not take in his negativity and do not take it to be the truth about who you are. Some men marry or become involved with women in order to have someone to hate and abuse. I would also connect with a support group for abused women. There is a great deal of understanding you can gain, comfort, protection and also guidance. There also may be legal issues you need to be informed of here, especially if he is not willing to let you go. Go get yourself all the help you can right now in getting away from him.
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Sarah
I want to go back to my former occupation. Not once did I have a man disrespect me. I hurts to know that my own husband would.
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