Doesn't want a "relationship"

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Registered: 12-31-1969
Doesn't want a "relationship"
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 2:27pm

I met this guy a month ago who I thought had real potential.  I've been looking for many years.  Right before he met me he decided he did NOT want to be in a relationship.  Lucky me!   So he just wanted "friends with benefits".  I really like him, and he may be leaving the state soon.  Is he worth pursuing?  I really think he is the one and yes, he was looking prior and is on dating sites.  I did quit seeing him for awhile, but now I want him back.  What should I do?

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 08-01-2012 - 4:27pm

It takes two to tango.  If he said he doesn't want to be in a relationship, believe him.  There is nothing you can do.  You should just move on.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Or perhaps he doesn't want a relationship because he's leaving the state soon.   He would be crazy to start something knowing that he's about to move away.

But either way, there's no point in persuing someone who doesn't want a relationship.

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Registered: 03-24-2003


Sorry but no, it's got nothing to do with loss of his wife and gf, as sad as it is. He doesn't like you/want you/is into you enough to want to have anything more than FWB with you. Don't waste your time on him and move on..