Dont know what to do

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Dont know what to do
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Sat, 01-19-2008 - 9:20pm
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Registered: 10-07-2007
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 11:20pm

Huh? Sorry, I'm not sure I quite understand, so bear with me.

You broke up with your girlfriend because she was dancing suggestively with two guys? If that's the case, then this is my advice:

While I understand it's a little uncalled for, you're at a gay bar, so it's natural to think that the guys there are..gay. And some girls feel that it's okay to let guys who are gay touch on them and dance with them. Personally, I do feel that there is a difference between a straight man dancing with me and a gay man dancing with me.

I don't think it was fair of you to just dump her on the spot like that, although you do have a right to be irritated with her actions. I just think you jumped the gun a little.

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Registered: 01-19-2008
Sat, 01-19-2008 - 11:31pm
I did not break up with her, I feel as though I dont want to be with her anymore.
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Registered: 10-07-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 12:03am

Okay, I see now.

Hmmmm...that's a tough one. Do you trust your girlfriend? Even though I definitely think you have a right to be upset, if you trust her that it was just innocent dancing, then I would just talk to her about it. Tell her that even though they are bi, you don't feel it's appropriate for her to dance and feel all over other guys. Hopefully she'll understand. And if she uses the excuse that you don't like to dance, I would simply say that dancing is fine, but GRINDING and feeling up on other men is just unacceptable.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 01-20-2008 - 3:10pm

Welcome to the board starchild316,


Gay or not, bi or not, your girlfriend LOVED their attention and didn't set good boundaries. IF this is a dealbreaker for you, then you have to do what you gotta do......