Don't know what to do
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Don't know what to do
| Mon, 07-16-2007 - 1:11pm |
I was dating a guy for about 3 years, and while he was in Europe on a business trip, I started hanging out with this guy I had recently met. My intentions were to be his friend and nothing more, but one night he made a move on me and I went along with it. We started to have sex, but I stopped it because I didn't want to go any further because I knew it would hurt my boyfriend. I shouldn't have gone along with it in the first place, but I did. The next day, I called my boyfriend to let him know what happened because I felt he had the right to know, and I wouldn't be able to live with that guilt. So, of course he broke up with me, and we have now been broken up for 3 months. Although we broke up, it doesn't seem as if we did because we hang out on a regular basis, we go to each other's family functions etc. We still love each other a lot, and he told me that he's just not sure what he wants to do. He said he's torn between either to get back in relationship and work on it, or if he should just leave it as it is and move on. I told him that I still want to be with him and even wrote him a commitment letter telling him what I would do to gain back his trust in me again. Ultimately, it's up to him to decide the fate of our relationship but what can I do to help him make that decision(the us getting back together decision)?

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Welcome to the board,
Unfortunately there really isn't anything you can do. All you can is tell him how you feel about him and let him make his decision.
glitter-graphics.com
Has he said that he wants space? I suggest asking him what he wants and what he feels for be best for him in making his decision.
glitter-graphics.com
Well, you ARE broken up.
Well, he has no right to be upset about you holding hands with someone else, because the two of you aren't together! So that should be off the table altogether and if it's not, then I'm not sure I'd really want to get back together with someone who would hold that against me given that the two of you were broken up when this happened.
The lying is something else though--that goes to him getting his trust back and each time you lie to him, you make that impossible. You need to be absolutely impeccably honest with him or he's never going to be able to do that.
Sheri
I agree with Sheri 100%.
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