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| Fri, 06-01-2007 - 1:50am |
ive been with my boyfriend for a little over 4 years. about a year and a half ago thoughts crossed my mind about breaking up with him for many reasons, one being he was going away to school. when that time came we talked about it and he didnt want to break up we just stayed together. so the first weekend we came home from school i found porn on his computer. he had told me he would never do it again because the last time i found it i was crushed. so i wanted to put our relation ship on hold. once again he did not agree with my decisons. so i gave in and stayed with him. since then ( sept 06 ) my thoughts have been different toward him. and him being away at school. during his time at school ive become good friends with this guy. me and this guy have know each other since the beginning of my boyfriend and i relationship, i actually met this guy thru my bf. we'll when i got my car in jan. me and this guy started hanging out and he developed a crush on me. it became so bad causing his feelings toward me to get stronger and he broke up with his girlfriend of a year. my bf knew nothing about this. after while of car rides and just goodbyes at the end of the night this guy really began liking me. now its gotten to the point where i feel strong feelings for him as well. i miss him when im not talking to him. no matter how wrong i know it is i let him kiss me. but i just need time to think about who i want. and i just dont know what to do. my bf and i talked the other day and i expressed my feelings toward him about wanting a break and hes just not accepting them. how do i get a break without telling him bout this other guy?? thanks.

>>how do i get a break without telling him bout this other guy?? <<
Well, it depends on what you mean by a 'break'. If you mean a 'break up', then just don't tell him about the other guy. Say "it's not you, it's me" or "I just can't do the long distance thing" or "we've grown apart". And the trick with a break up is to not allow yourself to be talked out of it. Just state your thoughts and leave. Be strong.
However, if by 'break' you mean temporary break, then you shouldn't attempt it. If you take a temporary break to see what it's like with this other guy...then you're basically cheating.
Either stay faitful to your boyfriend or break up...but trying to find mid ground is virtually impossible.