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don't know what to do
| Tue, 10-12-2004 - 12:48pm |
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years now(my first bf) and we have 2 children together. We have been living together for 3 years now. He has another gf, well kinda, he says he is still w/ her because she has his child (before ours) and that is the only reason why they still have something going but it's nothing more than that. He never has time to do anything with me because he is busy with work and all. But whenever she comes into town he always seem to have time, he says it's because he hardly gets to see them because they don't live here. It has reached to a point where I don't know what to do with this whole situation because we have children together so I can't just get up and go. I am very confused as to what I should do. It doesn't even feel right anymore when we have sex or anything because I keep thinking about them together. What should I do?

I hope i helped...even if just a little. good luck with everything.
Kylilla.
::We have been living together for 3 years now. He has another gf, well kinda, he says he is still w/ her because she has his child (before ours) and that is the only reason why they still have something going but it's nothing more than that.
He lives with you and visits her (or their child). Or he has something going on with her? He says he is still w/ her because she has his child - in what way is he WITH her - sexually, emotionally, physically?
Carrie
Hon, this man has the best of both worlds... he's having sex with two women who want him. What an ego-booster. He has no honor, no integrity, no loyality, isn't trustworthy, and NO INTEGRITY.
Why are you willing to SHARE a man? Don't tell me, you love him, right? Sorry I don't buy it. There is nothing to love, admire or respect about this man. You feel trapped. You think if you just hold on a little longer that he will come to his senses, be honorable, do the right thing. You might even think that if you don't give in and let him do what he wants that you will LOSE him forever. In my opinion, you will have lost nothing, but will have gained a ton in self-respect and self-esteem. why do you put up with this? Please know and believe that you are worthy of better, but you will be the one that has to set the boundaries, draw the line and enforce it.
Think of what he's teaching your children. He's teaching them that it's ok to sleep with two women, to have two relationships going at the same time, to lie, to cheat, to have no integrity - would you want your son to turn out this way? Would you want your daughter to marry someone with the same values as her father?
I hope you can do what you KNOW needs to be done and heal yourself.
Carrie