don't know what to do?!?!?

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Registered: 05-17-2004
don't know what to do?!?!?
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Tue, 05-18-2004 - 12:37pm
I'm new to this! I have been dating my boyfriend for close to 2 years, and i love him so much and he makes me so happy. We are currently 3,000 miles apart because i am doing an internship for school for three months. Here's the deal. I had the luxury of staying with bf's best friend and his roommate for the three months that i am here. I have had the chance to meet all of their friends here and they are great. Well, the guy that i have been living with (not the best friend the other guy) i have hooked up (no sex, but thought of)with one of his really good friends, twice!! I don't know what i was thinking!! I feel horrible about it. I see this guy all time, because we all hang out together. What sucks, is that he is a really great guy and we get along great, but i don't want to break up with my bf and start seeing this guy. He knows that i have a bf and i talk about him all time so that he won't be so persistent and stop saying things to me that i can't even repeat myself. It's been 7 weeks since i have seen my bf and he is coming in three days!! I feel so horrible hooking up with this guy, but at the same time it feels nice to have someone there and i can't get him out of my head. I don't know what to do?! I am so afraid that he will slip and say something and it will get back to my bf's best friend, and then i'm dead. I so badly want to tell my bf, but i don't want to lose him and i love him so much. I have never done this before! Help?!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 05-18-2004 - 12:49pm
If the roles were reversed you would be so angry and hurt if your bf was hooking up with another gal if he were the one that was away.

When you hang out with someone long enough, share intimate details of your life, share emotional things, bond, feelings are bound to develop, especially since you are far away from your bf and you are lonely. Personally, I don't think you are ready for a long-term commitment.

Good luck to you, I hope someone else has some good advice for you.


Carrie