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don't know what to do
| Tue, 03-16-2004 - 10:13am |
I'm only 19 and feel kinda weird about posting here, but I think I do have a bit of a problem. My family had moved to Florida last may, and at the same time, my on again off again boyfriend for 4 yrs had moved out to los angeles. We have dated other people but always ended up breaking up with them and get back with each other. I always would think about him and it just wouldn't feel right. But my problem is, I moved out there with him last november and we know we want to get married and I've told him I don't need an engagement ring and what not, because right now, it feels like we are married, we just don't have any rings or papers to show it. And he has told me and my mom (they do talk and have a good relationship which I think is good, most of the time), that he's not going to get married until his cousin comes back from Iraq, and he's going to ask me when HE wants to. And he does have a problem of being selfish... I can semi understand him not wanting to get married without his cousin, because they grew up together, born on the same day and few minutes apart, they are best friends. But I just don't want to have to wait 3 or so yrs for him to come back, (he is a marine and was deployed in february). Are my mom and I wrong for being annoyed with this, because part of me does feel and understand about him not wanting to do that without him, but I don't know what to think or feel. If I could have any input or suggestions about how I can handle this would be awesome. ( and I've been saying that we can deal with when his cousin comes back and marriage when he asks me, but what he is saying just makes me think its not gonna happen for a while) Im sorry for this being so long. thank you

This is hard....as much as you want to wait and honor your SO's wishes, you also want to know that things are indeed moving ahead in the relationship.With that said, i dont understand why you told him that you dont need a ring(other than that it already felt like you were married)...if it already feels like a marriage, then rushing into something will not make it any more real besides the paper and the ring...and al lthe stress that comes with