dont know what to do

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Registered: 01-31-2008
dont know what to do
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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 8:52pm
my boyfriend and i have been together for a little over 4 years now. last saturday we got into a fight and he said that we broke up but i did not know about that. well now when i ask him if we are together he says i dont know or i guess. also when i tell him i love him he says okay. when i ask him if he loves me he says i guess or i dont know. he has recently changed all of his interests and made a "guys night" EVERY friday, saturday, and sunday...also he wont let me see his phone or anything that is his. i cant even look at anything in his truck. what is wrong with him or us? can somebody help me? i want to save our relationship

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Registered: 03-01-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 12:30pm
I haven't read the other responses.

 

 

 

 

 

******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again
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Registered: 06-23-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 1:07pm

Speaking as someone going through some relationship mess myself, I advise you to steer clear of him and let time take its course.

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Registered: 01-31-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 3:32pm
i have recently talked with him and he said that we are moving a little to fast for him right now and that he believes he wants to be with me but he wants to get if life figured out first. we are going on a camping trip next monday for 3 days. he said after that we will put the relationship on "pause" what does that mean??? would we still be together? does that make it so he can go "mess around" with other girls and it be ok? i dont understand
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Registered: 03-01-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 4:13pm
In all honesty, it sounds like he is trying to keep his options open with someone else.

 

 

 

 

 

******************************************* “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again
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Registered: 04-25-2008
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 5:58pm

I am so sorry you are going through this.


I do think he is interested in someone else, or is just done with the relationship. He wants to keep you on the back burner, just in case something else doesn't work out. I wouldn't go on any trip with him because you are just going to be miserable and it may come out as being clingy and needy to him. You need to leave him behind. You are so young!! You have so much time to figure out who you are going to spend the rest of your life with. You need to find what makes YOU happy, not a man or a relationship. You deserve better and you will get better.


Stay strong and move on...

Sara

"Seek to understand and you will be understood"

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 06-23-2008 - 10:50pm

Usually the couple discusses the ground rules for a break that include dating others or not.

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