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Don't which way to turn
| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 8:38am |
My husband and I have been married for nine years. We both had a previous marriage and kids. We have know each other for just about our entire lives, since I was two and he was three. So there shouldn't have been to much that we didn't know about each other. The problems just seem to keep coming and growing nothing seems ever to be settled.It might be weeks or months then he will take something that we talked about twist it around and use it the say very hurtful things. We have been to counceling, he made everything my fault because of the endrometrious. I have been on a medication to try to help the symptoms. The majior thing with that part is even though I am doing everything that I can he still make propositions to one of my employees. I feel so hurt. I know for a fact that he has every intention of having a relationship with her because he's out right said so. It's not even just that part of my life that makes me so confused. He is always hanging around his ex-wifes family. I feel limited contact should be kept for the kids but not hanging out with them all the time. He will then come home and treat my oldest daughter like dirt. In his eyes she does no right. He's made comments to show that after she moves out to college that he will turn all his nit picking on one of the younger girls. I used to think that he was the one person that I could trust completely with every part of my life. Now I am not to sure. Something that might not help in my confusion is that the kids wish he would just leave, and the used to want to spend every second of the day with him becasue he was so good to them.

Wow. And your still living with this man, why?????
I could understand your staying if he treated the kids better than he treats you, but thats not even the case. Whats worse, is by staying, you are letting these kids know that treating and being treated like that is acceptable and expected. How can they grow to respect themselves if their father doesnt even show them that?
And to blatenly tell you his intentions of infediltiy?Are you serious?
You need to get out...for you...for the kids....Not doing so, makes you as
Carrie
GEEZ what a piece of horse droppings your H is!!! its YOUR fault that he is abusive, or he is ALLOWED to be abusive because you have endometriosis? and you should be GRATEFUL to him that he is being UPFRONT with you?
there is always a way to leave. i walked out of my marriage 10 months ago - also a second marriage, my STBX was very very abusive to me and to my son. I left a moderately financially stable life - to being POOR. really truly poor. i work like a dog and have no money. BUT - i have a life, and my son has a life.
You are not being honest is saying that your kids are strong. i am sure that your kids are hurting very very badly inside - maybe they are not saying anything to you - but i assure you that they are hurting.
don't do this to yourself - or to your kids. get help and GET OUT>