Dr. Brenda please help me!!!
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Dr. Brenda please help me!!!
| Wed, 07-21-2004 - 11:49pm |
I'll try to keep this short. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 and a half years and have a 2 1/2 year old together. We are both 23 yrs old. His cousin, who was like a brother to him passed away 3 weeks ago. He kind of closed up to me, and I let him. I didn't want to nag him and I tried to give him the time and the space that he needed. He was hardly home for about a week and a half or so after this happened. He was spending his time at his uncle's house. A week later he started to get more distant towards me and told me that he never wanted to marry me, although he had said that he wanted to many times before. He said that he didn't want the relationship to end, that he was just going through a hard time and that he wasn't feeling like himself. Well a few days after that he told me over the phone that he never really loved me, that he had grown to, and that he was sorry that he couldn't give me what I wanted (which was love, marriage, I don't know) This was a week and a half ago that he did this. He left my son and I and left me all of his belongings-I know that he is just not in the right state of mind. This isnt the man that I fell in love with. He is now saying that he would never marry me because I would divorce him and take all of money, that he can't be himself around me, just things that I know aren't true. I just don't know what to do. He has left my son and I (and our brand new puppy) all alone. All the plans and the dreams that we had just seem to be fading away. This isn't him, I don't know who it is...I'm so depressed and confused. I have been a stay at home mother since our son was born. I was so dependent on him, and now I am going to have to put my son in daycare and get a job and go back to school. He has only seen our son once in the last 2 weeks. I just have no idea what to do, I'm so scared and so confused and he wont return my calls from the last 4 days. Should I try to wait this out, try to give him more time, I just dont know what to do. Please help. Thank you.-Kate

Carrie