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| Tue, 04-17-2007 - 3:08pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for about 8 1/2 months now, I love him very much. We plan on getting married sometime soon and want to have children. But here's the problem for some reason I have been having dreams about his younger brother kissing me and almost everytime that this happens I always ask him what he is doing, I try to stop it but we always end up making out and sometimes more. I have not touched him, kissed him, or anything in real life. My boyfriend I lived in the same house as him but we are moving now, not because of this. Just to have our own space. We are happy most of the time but we bicker about 6 times a week, either he says something "wrong" or I do. We think that maybe moving will help with this.
I'm so confused by these dreams, I try to tell myself that they don't mean anything but why would I keep on having them? I would talk to my boyfriend about this but I'm afraid that he will get upset, and he does have a jealous nature. I love him alot and I don't want to jeopordize what I have with him. So these is my questions: is this normal? What does this mean? Can I make it stop?

Welcome rosie_girl87,
I think they are just dreams and perfectly normal. I have dreams every once in a while about a guy from my high school that I really didn't even know and that I haven't seen in over 7 years. I also didn't even like him. Anyway, what I was trying to get at is they are just dreams and don't try to read too much into them.
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First of all don't talk to your boyfriend about this. There's no reason to put this in the space between the two of you. Of course it will upset him greatly, and also make him feel ill at ease when the three of you are together.
It's a good idea to move out of the house where his brother lives. I don't know exactly what the dreams mean as I don't know you or the situation. They may stop. If they do not, I suggest you go to a professional therapist and talk them over. It's possible you may have an underlying attraction towards the brother, or it may represent other issues that are going on inside. But whatever these dreams mean, remember they are only dreams. You do not have to, nor should you, act upon them. You also do not have to express them to anyone, (other than a possible therapist). Just leave them where they are, as dreams.
However, if they persist and are disturbing, then I certainly suggest you work on them with a therapist.
All good wishes,
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