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drugs and deceit
| Fri, 04-16-2004 - 3:23pm |
Hello. I am wondering if anyone out there can give me some sound advice for my situation.
It has been a few months since I found out my boyfriend was doing cocaine. I found it in his wallet after being suspicious for a long time. Just today I found more. He says he was "holding it for a friend" but I am not stupid. And even if he was, it's more about the lies and deceit than the addiction. I am a supportive person but I will not be taken advantage of. During the past few months of being 'sober' he was hiding bottles of alcohol in his car and around the house. This has happened numerous times since he has been living with me (and my 3 kids). As much as I want our relationship to work I cannot continue to live this way. I don't even trust him anymore. He was so angry that I went through his stuff and tried to place the blame on me. Is this typical addict personality? I never touch any of his things unless I am very suspicious. Is this another warning to get out or to seek help? I love him but have my family to care for. We have been dating over 2 years and my kids are attached to him. I am just so sick of hearing how great everything is when he's hiding something that he knows could potentially break us up.
I need some advice. Please don't sugar-coat it.
dollybil
It has been a few months since I found out my boyfriend was doing cocaine. I found it in his wallet after being suspicious for a long time. Just today I found more. He says he was "holding it for a friend" but I am not stupid. And even if he was, it's more about the lies and deceit than the addiction. I am a supportive person but I will not be taken advantage of. During the past few months of being 'sober' he was hiding bottles of alcohol in his car and around the house. This has happened numerous times since he has been living with me (and my 3 kids). As much as I want our relationship to work I cannot continue to live this way. I don't even trust him anymore. He was so angry that I went through his stuff and tried to place the blame on me. Is this typical addict personality? I never touch any of his things unless I am very suspicious. Is this another warning to get out or to seek help? I love him but have my family to care for. We have been dating over 2 years and my kids are attached to him. I am just so sick of hearing how great everything is when he's hiding something that he knows could potentially break us up.
I need some advice. Please don't sugar-coat it.
dollybil

YES. Shift blame, not take responsibility, lie, hide things, etc.
As much as you want this to work, you can't talk to a drug, you can't love him enough to help him, save him, or change him.
Do what's right for you and your kids.
Carrie