To dump or not to dump

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Registered: 04-18-2008
To dump or not to dump
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 6:46am

After ending a 32 yr. marriage, not looking for new romance, a man introduced himself to me - 'out of the blue.'


About the guy in this story: 60 yrs old, blonde, blue eyes, a bit paunchy, solid job, excellent income, nice house,


great car, humorous, and romantic.

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Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 11:54am

Welcome to the board sweedish2007,


In my opinion, I don't know what there is to think about. He lied to you about an STD and has had unprotected sex with you knowing full well that he could have infected you with it. I would dump him immediately and get an appt to get yourself tested.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 12:28pm

Welcome to the board sweedish2007,


In addition to him lying to you about STDs, he's also still has addiction issues and ex-gf friend issues. To me, you are looking at 3 strikes.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 1:05pm

Time to return the ring and move on.

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Registered: 11-10-2007
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 1:59pm

It doesnt sound like he is living a life that would preclude monogamy and devotion to you or the relationship.

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Registered: 04-25-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 5:24pm

I read your post., I know all the half truths etc but I am not getting what you feel about him? My 2nd husband had his stuff and I was married for 12 years and it was the happiest years of my life. I think going in if you know what your getting and you know that most likely leopards don't change there spots and your happy at least 80 percent of the time then don't throw the baby out with the bath water.