eff it. seriously.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-03-2008
eff it. seriously.
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Sun, 04-13-2008 - 8:01pm

hey so i've been posting for the last week about my boyfriend who freaked out about graduating, and thank all of you for your advice. well it's been five days since he told me he wasn't sure if this was gonna work and then changed his mind to saying he "needed more time to think" that he'd been hurt bad in the past. But what worries me is a point a lot of you made. that he's scared, it's only been three months, he's been hurt in the past. And if we're gonna make a LDR work, even though it's three hours, and especially one this young, i think it shouldn't be a question whether or not he wants to be with me. and five days of sheer silence has hurt me pretty badly and i'm gonna tell him. and frankyl it's unacceptable. even a short text saying "hey, i'm still thinking things over, just wanted to let you know", would have made a big difference. eff it. i'm gonna start going on teh dates i've been turning down since he and i started dating. i deserve someone who knows they want to be with me, distance or no distance.


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 8:54pm
I agree with you.
If he wanted to be with you badly enough he would have decided it immediately.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 04-13-2008 - 11:13pm

Hi lilyyy3,


I can't find your previous post, so I'm wondering if you posted on a different board or under a different name?


Reading material:


When he asks for space (aka, "a break") - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22130.1


Relationship Grieving Process - http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22985.1



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-14-2008 - 11:10am
I don't recall your previous post, but when a guy has to think about it for so long, it means he doesn't really want to be in the relationship. I agree with you that you should move on, but let him know that you're doing so.