Effort and lack thereof
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| Mon, 04-09-2007 - 5:08pm |
I've been with my bf for 6 months now and am head over heels in love. But I'm also a bit frustrated. I want to include him in every aspect of my life and find that he doesn't do the same. He hasn't asked me to meet his parents (who live close by) or hang out with his friends often(I've met them 5 times in group settings) It's always hanging out with my friends...or just the two of us. I know I'm probably over reacting, I just feel like at 7 months, he should want to include me in his life as much as I want to include him in mine. Am I crazy?
I also get frustrated because we see each other only twice a week (max). I don't know. Sometimes I think that he doesn't consider me serious enough...or good enough to include. Do I end things and move on?

If these kinds of things are important to you, then please accept the responsibility and ask for them as part of your growing relationship. No man is able to meet a woman's expectations if they are kept as a secret from him. He likely has no idea that you are judging him based on these likely secret expectations.
Until you talk to him about this, then I don't understand why you would jump to worst-case assumptions. At least give him the opportunity through knowledge of your wants, needs and expectations.
Not saying your bf is the same as mine...however, I have been with my bf for 3 years and I still have had to discuss it with him. It has been only recently that we have made mutual friends that we hang out with together. But I definitely feel ya, it is pretty much the same with my boyfriend. Whenever he hangs out with his sister or other family, I am rarely invited. However, he says that he doesnt want me to be there because of family issues he has and it really would be awfully boring. Also another reason is that he rarely spends time with these people so understandably when he does, he usually just wants to hang out with them and catch up. So consider these few things and it may help you out.