emotional detachment

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
emotional detachment
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Mon, 06-09-2008 - 4:38pm

The man I've been dating for three months now has a hard time emotionally attaching to the women he dates.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 5:07pm

Welcome to the board trustlove8,


Love does not heal or cure all, espeically if the other person has done no inner work to resolve the issues of a past relationship filled with hurt.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 6:13pm

I agree with itwinflame 100%. At this early in the game, if you put more of a focus on commitment and attaching yourself to someone, you run the serious risk of blindsiding yourself to what's really best and wasting time you'll never get back.

He may be a really good guy but I'm very hesitant to think that he's relationship material at this point in his life. To be walking on eggshells at three months is not a good sign. In a way it's alright for him to be making travel plans without you, but on the other hand, my guy of over three years came happily to my cousin's wedding 9 hours away with my family when we had only been dating two months. I cannot imagine that being unwilling to integrate you into his life is the mark of a man who is ready for this.

You need to stop focusing on his needs and start a relationship with someone who has the right assets to compliment you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2004
Tue, 06-10-2008 - 5:17pm

Thank you all for your advice.