emotional infidelity question help!

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Registered: 09-14-2003
emotional infidelity question help!
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 9:18am
I was reading articles on this website on emotional infidelity and to stay away from it it says a married person should stay away from friendships with people of opposite sex that's a bit absurd anyone can have any friends they want, but are shared friends ok? My husband and I have a single guy friend that was originally just mine but now he comes over for dinners and has becomed part of our life is this wrong? or just when only one person has outside friends? any advice would help thanks
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Registered: 09-05-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 9:33am

Emotional infedelity is not just a friendship with a person of the opposite sex, that would be absurd to expect your SO never to have friends with a person of the opposite sex.

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Registered: 02-20-2004
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 9:55am
You should definitely be able to have friends of the opposite sex. In your case, if your SO has welcomed your friend into your home on a regular basis as his friend as well and has never told you it bothers him, then you shouldn't have anything to worry about and be happy that you have a secure relationship in that respect. A friend of the opposite sex is perfectly fine, as long as too much time isn't spent away from your partner, solely with one person - and if your partner ever asked to join in, you/him would never hesitate to include them if they wanted that. I would think emotional infidelity would be based on a relationship where two friends of the opposite sex sharing secrets and personal information (like about your sex life and other private matters) that they might not share with their mate - and lying about talk on such subjects with that "friend". Your deepest thoughts and happiness should rest on your SO, not in another woman for him or another man for you. Otherwise, making friends of the opposite sex apart of your circle is perfectly fine and fun!

 

Tiffany

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Registered: 09-14-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 2:33pm
I get it so I guess we are ok I freaked he was originally just my friend for years then i married and now he is our friend and we don't do any of those things like lieying or hiding outtings or spilling problems to him we hang out as friends thank you.