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emotional rut
| Mon, 08-06-2007 - 4:10pm |
the passed couple of weeks have been rough on my man and i. firstly, our sex life has deminished a lot over that time. from having sex everyday to just once a week the past 3 weeks. a lot of it has to do with a different work schedule every few weeks and then following that - my monthly hell. because of the lack of sex i'm starting to feel needy, insecure and worrysome. that worrysome contributed to a stupid arguement that just set a low tone for the whole weekend and took my partner by suprise. i'm becoming scared and hopeless - i just feel myself going deeper and deeper into a black hole and can't get out. how can i regain my strength and positive attitude to brighten things up? i just continue to harp on this, thinking my relationship is suddenly going downhill and it's making the love of my life worry. i just need to "snap out of it" but for some reason i feel i won't. any suggestions?

Hi beautifullife4759,
I can understand how you're feeling and it's sort of a 'slippery slope' whereby I think the more you dwell on it the worse it gets. If it's only been 3 weeks I think it's early enough that you're making this seem like a bigger problem than it is. Maybe try to take a vacation from your boyfriend. Take a week to yourself and just be by yourself, with your friends, etc. etc. Try to call up your closest friends and explain to them that you're feeling really low and you need to get out of the house and go have some fun to take your mind off of things. I bet a girl's night out would do wonders.
It's hard to get out of a bad mood and I find a lot of times that if I just say 'stop!', even outloud, when bad feelings or thoughts enter my mind, it can help.
Another option is talking to your guy...just sit him down and tell him you need to get some things off of your mind and you just want him to listen without commenting. Then tell him everything you're feeling and see if you can work it out together. If he really loves you he'll support you and try to work things out and make you feel better. Just make sure you're not accusing him of anything, you're just thinking outloud.
Hope that helps...keep us updated!
Lots of hugs!!!
First go see your Doctor. You sound depressed. He/she can tackle and even stop your monthly hell with safe birth control-there are lots of options.
What has changed in your relationship lately. You haven't given us a lot of information.
Edited 8/6/2007 5:23 pm ET by ciao__gina
That`s wonderful! I´m glad your boyfriend is devoted enough to have been understanding. I hope everything works out!