emotional wreck

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Registered: 12-05-2006
emotional wreck
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Sat, 04-21-2007 - 12:50am
Hi,
I'M A 31 Y/O STAY AT HOME MOM RIGHT NOW FOR MY 1 Y/O KID, PROFESSIONALLY HIGHLY QUALIFIED. I JUST CAN'T TAKE TJIS EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE ANY MORE. I WAS BROUGHT UP BY VERY STRICT PARENTS, THE ONLY THING EXPECTED OF ME WAS BE OBEDIENT, BE ON TOP OF MY GRADE.I WA SNEVER GOOD AS COMPARED TO OTHER KIDS IN THEIR EYES.IF I DID SOMETHING WHICH THEY DIDN'T LIKE, MY DAD USED TO BEST ME AND VERBALY ABUSE MEEVEN AFTER I WENT TO COLLEGE. THERE I MET AND FELL IN LOVE , BUT HE LEFT ME FOR ANOTHER WOMAN AFTER 3 YEARS.GOT MARRIED TO MAN OF MY PARENTS CHOICE JUST TO GET AWAY FROM THEEM..HUSBAND AND IN-LAWS WANT ME TO DO AS THEY EXPECT, IF I DO SOMETHING OF MY OWN,THEY WON'T TALK TO ME OR IGNORE ME UNTIL I GET THE MESSAGE.SIL VERBALLY ABUSES ME, EVEYONE SAYS I HAVE TO CHANGE ,THAT SHE IS PERFECT AND CAN'T BE WRONG. AT FIRST MY HUSBAND USED TO AT LEAST LISTEN TO WHAT I HAD TO SAY, EVEN THOUGH HE NEVER SUPPORTED ME, BUT NOW HE JUST GETS ANGRY AT ME AND WON'T LISTEN . MY PARENTS SAY THAT I NEED TO LOOSE AT LEAST 20LBS WHICH I GAINED AFTER PREGNANCY FOR HIM TO LOVE ME.MY HUBBY SAYS THEY WILL NEVER LOVE ME THAT THEY'LL ALWAYS BE CLOSER TO MY SISTER.WE RECENTLY MOVED TO NEW CITY ,SO I PLEASE HELP ME TO GET OUT OF THIS EMOTIONAL POINT AS I DONOT HAVE ANYONE TO TALK TO.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: eajg06
Sun, 04-22-2007 - 2:20am

Welcome to the board eajg06,


Do you want to get out of your relationship or save it?


If you want to save it, I highly recommend counseling now.