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| Mon, 12-17-2007 - 7:32am |
Hi, I'm a 26 yo sahm to 3 kids (7 in Jan, 4.5 and 3.5 yrs), married for almost 6 yrs. Warning, this might get a little long. I guess I should start at the beginning. Dh and I started dating 10 yrs ago, I was 15 and he was 16. We were together 2 yrs, then he joined the military and we broke up the 2 yrs he was stationed overseas. During that time I got in an abusive rebound relationship and had a baby. I left the father when ds1 was 6 mos old, a couple mos later dh came back to the States, we started talking again. My son and I flew down for a weekend visit Nov '01, we were married Feb '02. I moved across the country to his base. We had our first child together in 5/23/03, followed by a (unexpected but not unwanted) dd 7/23/04. We knew we wanted 3 kids, we just didn't expect to have them all in 3.5 yrs! Last yr we moved from Las Vegas to Alaska, where we are now and will be for 3-5 yrs.
Our marriage started out a little rocky, we hadn't really talked in 2 yrs and then suddenly we were married. He was responsible for a wife and child, I was in a strange town far away from family. After we had our kids we got into a rhythm and things were good.

Sounds like you need Dr. Phil.
I just came to this board looking for help myself... so I'm not really here to give you advice. But, I can relate with the attitude your husband is taking - where it feels like he's not listening... and doesn't care. I don't think men understand much... I really don't. After being married to him now for over 5 years - I've realized that men just don't get it.
Best of luck to you... sounds like you have a mess. Try your best to pull your head together for your kids...
Welcome to the board arrwillia,
Sorry to hear about your sister.
Praise therapy does work in some cases, like acknowledging when your husband does something to help, but