emotionally detaching

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Registered: 11-12-2007
emotionally detaching
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Mon, 12-17-2007 - 7:32am

Hi, I'm a 26 yo sahm to 3 kids (7 in Jan, 4.5 and 3.5 yrs), married for almost 6 yrs. Warning, this might get a little long. I guess I should start at the beginning. Dh and I started dating 10 yrs ago, I was 15 and he was 16. We were together 2 yrs, then he joined the military and we broke up the 2 yrs he was stationed overseas. During that time I got in an abusive rebound relationship and had a baby. I left the father when ds1 was 6 mos old, a couple mos later dh came back to the States, we started talking again. My son and I flew down for a weekend visit Nov '01, we were married Feb '02. I moved across the country to his base. We had our first child together in 5/23/03, followed by a (unexpected but not unwanted) dd 7/23/04. We knew we wanted 3 kids, we just didn't expect to have them all in 3.5 yrs! Last yr we moved from Las Vegas to Alaska, where we are now and will be for 3-5 yrs.


Our marriage started out a little rocky, we hadn't really talked in 2 yrs and then suddenly we were married. He was responsible for a wife and child, I was in a strange town far away from family. After we had our kids we got into a rhythm and things were good.

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Registered: 08-21-2003
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 12:24pm

Sounds like you need Dr. Phil.

I just came to this board looking for help myself... so I'm not really here to give you advice. But, I can relate with the attitude your husband is taking - where it feels like he's not listening... and doesn't care. I don't think men understand much... I really don't. After being married to him now for over 5 years - I've realized that men just don't get it.

Best of luck to you... sounds like you have a mess. Try your best to pull your head together for your kids...



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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 12-17-2007 - 1:58pm

Welcome to the board arrwillia,


Sorry to hear about your sister.


Praise therapy does work in some cases, like acknowledging when your husband does something to help, but