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| Thu, 10-09-2008 - 12:41pm |
Here is the info...caught husband cheating about a year ago. He tried to get me to come back for nine months. About a month after the divorce was final, I realized I was still in love with him. I want him more than anything. We moved back in together On Sunday. we have two boys 2.5 and 5 yrs old. Today he told me that he was unsure if he was happy and comfortable, or unhappy. He wonders if there should be a spark. I don't have the queasy stomach or anything, but i know I love him and want to be with him. He says he knows he loves me and wants to be with me but is unsure if he is in love with me.
I am hurt and scared that he is going to give up on our relationship. My question is...how are two people who previously lived together for 7 years supposed to feel when they begin to live together again. Should there be the anticipation of a new relationship, or what. I just do not want to go through the hurt again. I thought when I moved in it would be forever.

Welcome to the board dazedandconfused2008,
Most couples cannot overcome betrayal and rebuild trust without counseling. Is it an option?
Reading material to consider:
Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendrix
Relationship Rescue, Phil McGraw
Five Love Languages, Gary Chapman.
marriagebuilders.com offers some guidelines and this other iVillage board might have some good input for you: After the Affair
Being spontaneous, flirting, being upbeat and kind to each other goes a long way to rekindling feelings.
Again, i wish you a lot of luck and let me know how it goes!