Ending emotional affair, want to love my

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Ending emotional affair, want to love my
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Tue, 01-08-2008 - 11:45am
H like i used to before i met the OM. no one has ever turned my head since my met my DH 15 yrs ago, until this OM. we stopped the A before i went to far and now i have to move on with my H. i want my H to make my heart go pitter-patter again. any suggestions?
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 12:26pm

Welcome to the board kristie15,


Try dating your husband again. Go out and do stuff together. Go bowling, dancing, to the movies, go on walks together. Reconnect.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 12:45pm

You said - "i want my H to make my heart go pitter-patter again."


What exactly do you expect him to do to make this happen?


What are you going to do to offer him some guidance or at least contribute to this goal?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 2:23pm
i don't know. that's why i'm here. we have 3 small children so we don't date anymore at all, and we are short on sitters.
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Registered: 12-14-2005
Tue, 01-08-2008 - 3:43pm
I think you start treating him like you did when you were dating.... send him love notes, call just to say hi, cook his favorite meal, set date time at night after the kids go to sleep or are otherwise amused. Talk to him for reasons that are not logistical or about the kids, tell him how you feel about things, what you think about things going on in the world. Don't wait for him to do it for you... just do it for him. Eventually, he'll get the idea and respond. But, don't rush him. If he hasn't been getting any attention for a while he may not know how to handle it at first!!!!
Good luck!