Engaged, Lack of Sex, Cheating & Moving Out...HELP!

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Registered: 04-27-2012
Engaged, Lack of Sex, Cheating & Moving Out...HELP!
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Fri, 04-27-2012 - 12:18pm

Hi... I'm a 23 year old girl and been with my fiance for just under 4 years. Our relationship couldn't have been any better in the beginning and

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Registered: 11-28-1999

Please don't buy a house w/ this guy if you are unsure about the relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-13-2011

If you feel pressure to buy a house because your parents have sold their home, but you're not sure of what to do, why don't you rent a place and that will buy you some time to figure things out.

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Registered: 04-27-2012

Thank you for your replies...

I know moving out with him at the moment is the wrong thing to do, I think it's just become so difficult now as he's comfortable with our relationship and is happy with the way it is, he's just obviously blanking out the fact I'm not. It's easy to kind of get on with it the way it is as I'm so used to it, but I just can't face it staying like this. I think another conversation is in order...even if it results in us parting ways.

The last time I spoke with him, I thought he would agree and say the same, but it was clear it obviously isn't as important to him. Renting isn't really an option for us as we've spent so long to get an excellent deposit together and buy our dream house, it would significantly eat into it as we only buy our own food at the moment and the rest is saved. I know it would be worth it to find out if things would change or not, but I think I already know the answer to that and need to address it again.

I think the hardest part is one minute it feels everything is perfect with us (apart from the sexual side), and the next minute I can't bear to be in the same room as him - even when he's doing absolutely nothing wrong! I just don't know if it's my mind playing games or not and whether it's worth working on or not.

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Registered: 05-20-2009

If you're looking at other men & becoming involved with another man.......then your relationship is all over but the funeral.