Enjoying Time Apart - Should I Feel Guilty

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Enjoying Time Apart - Should I Feel Guilty
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Mon, 10-03-2011 - 2:02pm

Been with my bf for 2.5 years and we're pretty serious about spending our future together; we see each other almost every weekend, either at his house or he comes to my house ( we live 70 miles apart).

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 2:40pm
I think it is common, especially for women, to feel guilty if they spend time taking care of themselves first. Acknowledging your needs and doing something about it is the best gift you can give yourself, your daughter, and to your bf.

You won't be feeling as overwhelmed. Your daughter will benefit. And your bf gets a happier, more relaxed you when he sees you.

Mark
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 2:40pm

No! Enjoy your time, we all have things we need to accomplish. and we need our weekend to unwind and get things done.

I am in a long distance relationship, and wile we get together every chance we can, I also relish the time I have to myself, especially the "me" weekends withoud him or my kids.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 2:58pm

"He asked me to come over this weekend because his brother,

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Mon, 10-03-2011 - 6:08pm

No, you shouldn't feel guilty about needing some down time.

However, if you start to want less time together, it's something which may impact on your relationship.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 12:19am

Everyone needs alone time......but when you only have the weekends to spend together.....you shouldn't feel guilty, but you SHOULD examine the relationship.

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 5:20pm

Thakns Fissatore!

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Registered: 09-28-2011
Tue, 10-04-2011 - 5:23pm

Thanks UC Crab!

Oh no lol, I meant his brother, his brother's wife, their children and dogs.