Enough is never enough

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Enough is never enough
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 1:25am
My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years now and we have never really had a problem in the sex area, except that I feel that enough will never be enough for him. We are both very sexual people and we try a lot of different things and I am game for anything but I feel like the more I do the more he expects. I truly believe that he has a sex addiction problem and I am okay with that but I really want him to start recognizing some of the things that he does. I don't want to talk about sex ALL of the time, everything seems to circle back around to a sex topic and when I get frustrated by it he gets pissed. When we go out he has certain expectations and if they are not met in proper fashion he gets pissed. Believe me when I say that sexually we are very compatible but I think he just has got what he likes now and he can't help but to expect certain "things" all of the time. It just seems that he is pissed more then not when it comes to sex and that makes it no fun for me. The point of sex is fun and to feel good but he takes it way too far. I really don't know how to react to him anymore and it is making me very sad! Any help would be appreciated. Thanks for "listening".

Eli

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Registered: 09-26-2004
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 2:40am
Sounds like a serious problem. Any addiction should be addressed. If he'll go, find a couples councelor or at least get counceling yourself so you'll be better prepared in how to talk to him. Otherwise you will become more and more unhappy as time goes by not to mention totally exhausted.
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Registered: 04-01-2003
Fri, 10-08-2004 - 10:55pm
Thank you for your reply! I never really thought about getting counseling for myself, I always just figured it was something that he had to come to terms with. I never really thought of it as an addiction either but I guess it really is. Like with any addiction one must have suport of his loved ones to get through it.

Thanks for the show of support.

Eli