Erectile Dysfunction

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Registered: 03-23-2008
Erectile Dysfunction
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Sat, 03-29-2008 - 3:40pm
Do any of you have experience dealing with Erectile Dysfunction(ED)? Please share your experiences.
My boyfriend has ED, at least I am convinced that is the problem. He went to a doctor had some tests done. Thank goodness he did not have prostate cancer or diabetes. That is good news. He does take cholesterol meds. We are trying to get to the bottom of this problem. Hopefully we find out soon from the doctor what the real problem is.
Don't get me wrong, our sex life is good. For the most part our sex life consists of foreplay and oral sex. We masturbate together, he enjoys watching me masturbate and it turns him on. We watch porn together and I have a couple of toys. So we have tried to do things to spice up our sex life.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 6:03pm

Welcome to the board hillsboroqueenie,


Sorry I don't have any experience with ED.

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Registered: 04-02-2008
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 4:21pm
Hello: My BF of only 5 months has an ED problem.
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Registered: 03-23-2008
Wed, 04-02-2008 - 4:34pm
Thank you for sharing your account with me. I am very patient with him. When we are in the bedroom, I tell him it is ok. After sex, I cuddle up to him in bed and lay with him for awhile. Of course, I do this because I love him.
My relationship with my BF is a new relationship, just like yours. We met in July of last year and I moved in with him in December. So, I have been living with him for a few months now.
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Registered: 03-06-2008
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 7:25am

I doubt your problem is really ED - perhaps you ought to try laying off of the mutual masturbation and porn.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 9:55am

There are many different causes of erectile dysfunction, as you say, some are medical, some are responses to drugs, and others are caused by psychological factors. As I do not know your boyfriend, I have no idea what is causing his problem. It's good that you two can enjoy other means of sexual activity together. It's also a good idea to continuing exploring the causes of this so that he can obtain the treatment that is most appropriate for his situation.


Best wishes,

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Registered: 03-23-2008
Thu, 04-03-2008 - 3:08pm
He is 59, so I know that men in that age group can have a difficult time with maintaining an erection. We do other tings other than intercourse because his penis is not hard enough to have intercourse much of the time. As I said, plenty of times when we have sex it is mostly foreplay and oral sex. Even when I perform fellatio on him, he can have a difficult time maintaining an erection. But, I am very patient with him because I love him.
I suspect it is medications that cause him to possibly have this problem. You are right in mentioning psychological issues, because I know that men can have performance issues and anxieties that are a root cause of the problem with their sexual dysfunction.
My boyfriend is able to make himself cum while masturbating, and of course when he watches porn. I came home from work last night, and he told me he did cum three times while looking at porn on the internet.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 04-06-2008 - 2:03pm

::I came home from work last night, and he told me he did cum three times while looking at porn on the internet.


So basically he's NOT saving his excitement for you?