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| Fri, 11-02-2007 - 5:21pm |
I love my husband, we are in a decent second marriage. He thinks everything is fine. He refuses to talk to me about our serious issues and is not interested in counseling. Every time I talk to him, he zones out, changes the subject or falls asleep (day and night). I think I am getting more and more angry. I guess I just want him to hear me, validate my feelings,


One of the most important things is to realise that his lack of reaction indicates that he feels pressured to do something he doesn't want to do.
Welcome to the board happywife12007,
It is hard to give advice without knowing the issues.
It's easy to "click" with someone... It's not easy to find someone who is compatible and who you will have a long-lasting connection with. A click is not something a marriage can be built on. It seems you're trying to come to terms with the fact that you're going to have to communicate better for this to work.
How long has he been like this? If it's a recent change then maybe there's something that can be done; but if he's always been prone to avoiding tough conversations then you should probably cut your losses... again. People only change when they think they need to and they recognize they have a problem. He coasts through life, most likely, not making problems because he chooses to avoid conflict at whatever cost. That's not a "real" relationship, it's a fantasy land that only HE is living in.