***EX Advice PLEASE!!***
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|Tue, 06-03-2003 - 10:14pm|
I'm wondering two things... (1)Is it okay for me to get back with my ex-boyfriend? (2)Does he even deserve a second chance?
My ex and I broke up about almost 2years ago. He was going through traumatic problems, etc. in his life at the time and I was doing all I could to be by his side. Through all of his emotional ups and downs, he decided that he didn't deserve me and thought we should break up. After giving myself time to think(took me a month!), I thought it would be a good idea so that he could recover from what he was going through and to give him space as well...I thought that if we were meant to be we would later get back together.
After breaking up I wanted to keep in touch and stay friends. That didn't happen. He thought that wouldn't be a good idea. It tore me apart, but as time passed I eventually got through the whole break up. So, this is the big part. A couple of months later, I found out from a mutual friend that he got back together with his ex-girlfriend whom was his first love.
Currently (2003) he has broken up with her. Recently, he has been calling me and telling me that he regrets the whole past and wishes for me to give him another chance. I was basically hurt that he got back together with his ex-girlfriend and that during his "times of trouble", I couldn't help him...but he later went back to his ex-girlfriend? How is that supposed to make me feel? He was my first love and it hurts so much that he only NOW realizes what a mistake he has made.
I feel it's too late, but at the same time I kind of want to give him that chance. I really don't want to let him get the best of me again, but sometimes I wonder if the timing wasn't right the first time around? My ex has been on a "quest" to get me back for 3 mos now and I'm scared to give in. He has been calling me drunk, he has been telling me that his mother even feels that we were special, he has been just constantly apologizing, etc. However, I feel betrayed...almost as if he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend... I don't care that he got with her after we broke up... it still bothers me. Just the thought of him sleeping with another woman tears me apart.
I'm not sure what to do!!! I still love him, I'll always love him. I've moved on with our relationship and am okay now...but now I'm starting to stress on whether to give US a second chance. What should I do? Does he deserve a second chance? I'm thinking that I'm going to make him work for it if I do decide to work things out again. I don't know...please help!