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The ex is back!
| Fri, 11-07-2008 - 1:53am |
I have been in a really nice relationship for almost two years now. A few weekends ago, he received a phone call from his ex. I was in the room and they had a very cryptic conversation. I asked him what prompted her to call and he said he didn't know. I told him that it sounded like there had been some previous discussion and it definitely sounded like they would need to talk again. I asked him if he does, to please just be honest and tell me about it. That way, I won't feel I have to worry... if he's not hiding it from me, I would feel it is okay. It's now been several weeks and not a word. I brought up an indirect conversation about how sometimes it's not the action that gets you in trouble, it's hiding it. He agreed with me. I then asked him outright if he had communicated with her since the phone call. He said no and that he doesn't intend to. Judging from their conversation I had overheard, this just isn't normal. In the meantime he is telling me he loves me and can't live without me. I know he has been talking to her.

Would he be willing to change his phone number so that she gets the hint that things are over?
Firstly, how do you "know" he's been talking to her. You may suspect it, but you don't know for sure.
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Dr. Shoshana, it has been my experience that my instincts are pretty good. I did get a glimpse of his email (just the inbox list) and they have indeed been corresponding regularly.
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Since you know and you know he's lied and will continue to lie and your self-esteem is tearing away, well, only you know what you are willing to live with and what you want in
"He has told me he will always love her, probably because she is the one that got away. "
unrequited love -- red flag
"What I feel like is that he is only with me because he can't be with her. I feel that he loves me, but he will never love anyone as much as he loves her."
Never settle for second place - ifyou can help it. As we get older that first place status grows slim because of everyone's past.