Ex Boyfriend

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Registered: 01-29-2006
Ex Boyfriend
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Mon, 07-11-2011 - 12:26pm

My ex boyfriend broke up with me three months ago.

I accepted it but secretly wanted him back. He said at the time we were 'arguing' too much but his friends told me that he was feeling the strain from not having a job. When he first ended things with me, I left him alone, and didn't call him. Things took a turn when I had to go and look after my aunt for a week and he volunteered to look after both my cats while I was away. Since then, he has been much more friendly with me, returning my calls and chatting to me for ages on the phone. I should also say that he always said he would 'do odd jobs' for me, round the house, including painting and decorating of my flat. He has kept his word to this: I only have to ask and he comes round, sorting out all kinds of things.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Mon, 07-11-2011 - 12:40pm

I don't think anything is a "man's job" OR a "woman's job".

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Registered: 01-29-2006
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 9:50am

Thank you. I hope we do too.

There were a couple of serious issues which made him end things with me and I'm just starting to work through them now.

I think he thought I kind of 'broke his trust' by putting pressure on him to have a child with me way too soon.

I have worked through this and now realise that if I'm to have a child at all it will be through IVF in a few years time. I hope that reassures him.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 11:02am

I think that no matter how you do it, you need to put off

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Registered: 01-29-2006
Tue, 07-12-2011 - 11:58am

Thank you.

Yes, I am aware that he might just be feeling guilty.

That was the reason for my post in the first place. I am well aware that a man can do nice things for someone and not actually want to be with that person. I don't want to hassle him or make him think I'm clinging when I shouldn't.

I think you're being a little heavy handed with the 'child' stuff. I accept well enough the reasons why he broke up with me and am seeing a counsellor to try and work through my feelings. I also know that it may well be either too late to save our relationship or more appropriate that I 'move on' when I've had enough time to work these serious issues through. The mistake I made about the 'child'