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| Fri, 02-29-2008 - 5:54am |
My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago and we have only been dating 2 and a half months before he broke up with me and i am completely in love with him and i would do anything and everything to get him back. The problem is...i dont know how. The reason he broke up with me was because i was too clingy and obsessive and i didnt give him his space that he needed and now that we are broken up, i realize that i could

Welcome to the board Christina,
Honestly, the best thing you can do at this point is to give him what he wanted - space. If try to do something to win him back like calling, letters, etc it is only going to furthe his belief that your clingy and obessive. Don't call him or contact him, if he wants to call you he will.
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When a person feels too much neediness or desperation from a person, it drives them away. If he says he doesn't want to get together again, write him a little note and tell you completely understand how he feels, and that if you were him you wouldn't want to be with such a clingy person either...that you've learned a lot from this and in all future dating will be different...Then leave it alone. Just alone. Really, do what you say, go out and date. Don't put out energy that you need him and are desperate for him. That energy is what pushed him away. Live your life full on, happy, alive, independent. If you need help to do this, get good therapy so you will be able to stand tall and do so.
If he has any feeling left for you at all, he'll miss you, and pick up that you are not longing for him, clinging to him, but out there and happy. That's the only thing that may bring him back. But don't count on it and don't do it for that reason. Do it so you can be whole and live your life fully and beautifully.
Best wishes,
Welcome to the board Christina,
I hope you listen to Dr. Shoshanna's advice.