Ex doesn't want other women in his life
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Ex doesn't want other women in his life
| Fri, 08-20-2004 - 1:54pm |
I have been dating a man now for about 3 months - he is divorced and has a 4 year old daughter - his ex wife has stated that if there are women at the house when his daughter is there she will not let him see her - I know that they should have some sort of visitation agreement with the divorce but at the time he was in transition between jobs and houses and she got full physical custody and they don't have anything in writing about visitation - trust me I looked - he is reluctant to take her back to court because he says she is being very good about everything - so though I spend most of my time with him when his daughter comes over I am asked to leave and when she goes home he calls me and we then get together to spend time ... Am I being unfair to think that he should put his foot down with the ex or should I give it more time and see where it goes? I am confused about it all ...... any advice would help.....Thanks

Carrie
I am currently dating a man, who has a 4, almost 5 year old son and we have been dating for almost a year. I can tell you the first months of the relationship was hard because the ex-wife was insanely jealous of me being in her son's life. Although my boyfriend has custody of his son. I think your relationship is new enough for the space he wants when he has his daughter to be okay. It is so tricky when you get involved with men with children. At the same time, if you and him have a good relationship and you both think this will move further than it already is, he should put his foot down and explain to the ex-wife that you are a very important part of his life and so is his daughter, so there should be no reason you all can't be together when he has his daughter. His ex is still trying to conrol the situation that is seemingly out of control to her. The ex cannot shelter the two of them forever. Life moves on and if you are in a constant state of living life under conditions it will never move forward...which is what life is all about. In my situation my boyfriend stuck up for me and I was allowed to form a bond with his son. The unfortunate part is that this has it's good side and bad. We'll just say there isn't a week that goes by now that we don't have some kind of drama coming from the ex's side. It is very hard because there is a 3rd party indirectly involved in your relationship, which gives it a rather unfair start and unfair obstacles as you two are trying to form your foundation of the relationship. It is hard, very hard. But if you can be patient and work through the hurt and drama, it will be so worth it. But it is a lot of heartache. But if you believe in this relationship...go with what your heart is telling you!