Ex girlfriend and baby
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Ex girlfriend and baby
| Tue, 12-23-2003 - 12:54pm |
My boyfriend has this ex girlfriend that he dated for two years. When they first met, she had a daughter that was 3 months old. They started dating for whatever reason, and they moved in together about a year afterwards because she couldn't afford to take care of her daughter after a divorce. Well, she controlled my boyfriend because really all she wanted was someone to spend all of their time taking care of her and the baby. She followed him around to see that he wasnt going out with his friends and would wait on him to get off work every night. He said he tried to love her but he couldn't, and the only reason he stayed with her was because he felt sorry for her and couldn't walk away from all the time he has devoted to taking care of her baby. Well, about a year after they moved in, she asked him to chose between school and her. He had worked three jobs to support her and was going to school to make things better for the three of them. That wasn't good enough for her. So, he chose school, and left her. They haven't spoken since that day. He says he doesn't miss her and he doesn't think about her, and although he missed the little girl at one time, that he doesn't miss being a part of that situation and he regrets ever getting involved and wasting his time. He said he began to see how she was after he left her, that he began to see things that he didn;t see when they were together.
I have tried and tried to not think about this whole past relationship but it still bothers me. How can you stay with someone that you don't love for two years? How can you continue to give and give for a child that is not yours only to be told to sleep on the couch when you bought the bed???
Now we are living together and I feel as though he is the one, and what bothers me is that if we have children, it will not be as new to him as it will be to me. And that bugs me. I just cant get this out of my head. It pops up and I rake him over the coals for it until I am blue in the face. I know that he doesn't miss that at all, and that he doesn't think about it, but I still can't let it go. Am I being selfish or am I jealous that I am just another girl he is going to move in with?
Please help me. I need somebody to say the right thing to help me stop dwelling on this.
I have tried and tried to not think about this whole past relationship but it still bothers me. How can you stay with someone that you don't love for two years? How can you continue to give and give for a child that is not yours only to be told to sleep on the couch when you bought the bed???
Now we are living together and I feel as though he is the one, and what bothers me is that if we have children, it will not be as new to him as it will be to me. And that bugs me. I just cant get this out of my head. It pops up and I rake him over the coals for it until I am blue in the face. I know that he doesn't miss that at all, and that he doesn't think about it, but I still can't let it go. Am I being selfish or am I jealous that I am just another girl he is going to move in with?
Please help me. I need somebody to say the right thing to help me stop dwelling on this.

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