ex-texts

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Registered: 06-10-2007
ex-texts
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 11:46am

Hello-

First I have never written on a message board so I am new to this. However, I really need some help and I am hoping someone out there can give some good advice. Here's what happened:

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. We went to the same high school and really never crossed paths. When we met we both knew that we were soulmates. We have already vacationed together and I really think he is the one.

A couple of days ago, he had some text messages to an ex girlfriend of his on his cell phone. I found them while he was in the shower. The texts were talking about getting together and how important their friendship was. I confronted him and for two hours he lied and said that that was not really his ex girlfriend, it was just under her name or something. I told him that he was not to contact me until he told me the truth. Two hours later, he told me that that was infact his ex girlfriend, and that he was just saying that stuff so she would be happy. He keeps on saying "he took the easy way out."

I flipped out and told him that we needed to be over and I needed time to get over this. He wont stop contacting me, crying, saying he is so sorry and that he cant live with out me. He tells me that he never met up with her.

I love him so much and i want to believe him but it is difficult to do so. I dont want to break up with him and he says that we can get through this together. Am I stupid to believe him and stay with him? I love him so much and I really cant picture my life without him.

Any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: kteach2007
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 2:40pm

Welcome to the board kteach,


Wow, I nearly choked on the 'just saying that stuff so she would be happy. He keeps on saying "he took the easy way out."


Bottom line, he LOVED her attention. It stroked his ego and he's probably only sorry he got 'busted' not sorry he did it. I say that because he LIED.


Take a few days to think about what you want. To think if you can rebuild the trust and heal the betrayal.




iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2007
In reply to: kteach2007
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 4:36pm
i am a lttle confused here. How did you come across the text messages? Your upset with him in regards to trust and it sounds to me like you invaded his trust when coming across the texts. I'm just saying that it sounds like you both have some trust issues./
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2007
In reply to: kteach2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:09pm

leave him. you don't need to be with someone you can't trust.

how can you ever trust someone that doesn't care about you and your feelings.

you deserve better than this, don't you?