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ex wife woes
| Mon, 03-15-2004 - 6:55am |
my fiance of 3 yrs still talks to his ex. I'm never sure what to do about it. I really resent their relationship, but I don't want to kill ours by making theirs an issue. I'm a single mom and a full time student. I'm carrying 18 credit hours this semester and I'm very busy. She is on disability because she has chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia. Last week, he commented that the last time they talked, she was taking a photography course. I had the distince impression that he thought this was great, and I had suspicions that he even paid for it, although he didn't say that. To make matters worse, I suffer from the same disease but I try to work through my pain and make my life better. I deeply resent the consideration he seems to give her regarding her health, especially since I suffer a great deal, but I'm knocking myself out trying to ensure a better life for myself and my daughter. She is older, has had a hysterectomy and has no children.
How do I deal with my resentment and should I be upset about their relationship?

If you're getting married, then you should definitely talk about all your financial issues with him, including your suspicion that he's giving her money, because that will affect you after your marriage.
This issue needs to be addressed, because if you two are getting married, then you have to know now that things aren't going to change.
Carrie