Expect something from this relationship?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Expect something from this relationship?
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Sat, 11-10-2007 - 4:45pm
I started dating my first ex-husband in November of last year. We have seen each other off and on over the past 20 years since we married. I moved in with him in April. Things were up and down the first few months. But, all and all things have been great. We were married to other people in between. I had two kids. He was married for four months. He dated her a year before marriage. On th 12th of November it will be one year for us.I feel like we should be further along in our relationship considering our long history together.
I want to re-marry him. We have talked about it as a future thing. I want it soon. I want to get engaged. To start working on our future. I don't know how to start a conversation about this.I need some advise or insight on this relationship,Please!
What my question is...Am I wanting things to happen too soon? Am I just fooling myself about our possible future? How can I open this subject with him?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 11-11-2007 - 8:34pm

Welcome to the board lori0033,


With or without marriage are you happy where you are at this moment?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 3:23pm

Welcome to the board lori0033,


It is natural given your history to want to move forward in the relationship quickly. Has he given clues as to whether or not he would like to get married again?


Just sit down with him someone and ask him what he feels is in the future for the two of you. Don't be afraid to talk to him about what is on your mind and what you want.


Good luck.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2007
Wed, 11-14-2007 - 4:21pm
Thanks for your reply.
You are right. I have to be happy with the relationship with or without marriage.
I have been focusing on the out come. I have been afraid that I wont get the results I am expecting. Everything is great now and it looks like we are growing in our love together.
I will have to get up my nerve and find the right time to talk about our future.
By the way, thanks for the welcoming!