extremely awkward....

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-19-2008
extremely awkward....
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Sun, 10-19-2008 - 2:11am

Hi, I'm new to iVillage. Yesterday morning, while my boyfriend of almost two years was in the shower something inside of me told me to look through his phone. I havent looked through it since we started dating and the only reason I did was because my ex cheated on me and I had trust issues. Anyway what I found was something I never in a million years thought I would find. I found an email response to a craisglist ad which basically said he was an attractive 29 year old looking to perform oral sex on a man. I was so sick and nauseous I didnt know what to do. Is he gay what is this is all that went through my head. When he came out of the shower i confronted him and he just said he was not gay and was so embarrassed and upset. He spent all day trying to get me to not break up with him and explain the situation. He kept telling me its just something he does when he is bored and he would never actually do anything with anyone. I feel that he really hasnt met up with anyone because he's always with me and always picks up his phone when I call.


I just don't know what to do. This is the worst situation I could ever imagine. Please help!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 10-19-2008 - 6:57am

If he's not bi, then he gets kicks from teasing others and leading them on.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Sun, 10-19-2008 - 9:36am
help, I think you have enough information to make an informed decision here. Can you deal with a boyfriend who wants to, and might actually, give another man oral sex? I wish this were an easier choice, and as tough as it is I would probably be breaking up with him too, but the decision is yours and it's very difficult to look at someone the same way when you find out something BIG they've been hiding from you. I really wish you the best of luck.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sun, 10-19-2008 - 4:31pm
If he is not gay then he could be bi-curious.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 10-19-2008 - 11:09pm

Welcome to the board help91686,


I totally agree with true.blue.strine "If he's not bi, then he gets kicks from teasing others and leading them on.