is this fair

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Registered: 10-29-2005
is this fair
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 12:51am
hi i am birgit,ive been with my husband 11years. i am german,he is from israel. we had alot of fall out in the years weve been together,but this on tops it. he doesnt want me to work,first of all,so i got monthly money from him,it got less and less ,now nothing. anyways my friend was renting a room from us,she only could pay $100 and twice a week she went to my husbands office to work the rest off. so he went to vegas on business,his sister also lives there she called him while he was there and ask for help.well her daughter is a crackhead,she needs help to straighten her out,he brought the girl back,moved her into my friend,who has been living with us for 4 years,out of her room,gave the girl the job of my friends,and pays her,nothing to me,i am even asked out on my friends rent,whitch she gave me so i had at least $400. now over a crackhead i am ask out. and no more company whitch my friend gave me,my husband just fights with me over this,when i told him how i feel. what should i do
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: faces6
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 9:39pm

Welcome to the board faces6,


You husband moved his niece in with you, who has a drug problem, displaced your friend, all without talking to you or

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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: faces6
Mon, 01-21-2008 - 10:36pm

A man who doesn't want you to work does it to make you DEPENDENT on him so that he can bette CONTROL you.

You need to get a job whether or not he likes it, because the unfortunate truth is that you may have to start supporting yourself....

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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: faces6
Tue, 01-22-2008 - 8:27am
I agree with Eggbert: keeping you financially dependent (no job, no money--and now NO FRIEND) is the behavior of a controller.