Falling apart

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Registered: 05-04-2007
Falling apart
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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 6:54pm
Me and my husband have been married for 4 1/2 years. we just had a beautiful baby boy last november and are still trying to get the hang of being new parents. I feel like my marriage is falling apart. my husband is in the air force and has been for almost 5 years and we leave 600 miles from all of our family and have very few friends where we live. all my husband wants to do is sit on his computer and play world of warcraft. he rarely goes out and does anything. i feel like i have lost him to the virtual reality of the computer. we did so much before we got married and now don't do anything at all but sit around the house and watch tv when he isnt on the game. my son is an angel in my eyes and i dont want him to grow up thinking all there is to do is play pc games. i feel like an only parent sometimes. i understand that he is tired from working and i dont work anymore so i dont mind having to take care of the baby but everyone needs that few minutes to themselves to keep their sanity i am sure that every mother can relate to that. i feel like a failure in life and i dont know how to fix it. i am overweight and so tired half of the time after watching the baby that i sleep when he does. what can i do to save this marriage and my life before i go over a deep end. i want it to work but i am tired of trying. if anyone has any advise please let me know.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
In reply to: ida_pie01
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 7:43pm

Hugs to you. Those first months with a baby are so very draining.

I'm wondering if you've spoken to your husband about how you feel and what his reaction is. Have you tried to find compromises for time with you and your son vs time on the computer? If so, why doesn't it work?

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Registered: 05-04-2007
In reply to: ida_pie01
Fri, 05-04-2007 - 10:02pm
i have talked to my husband about the situation. and what bugs me the most is that i can sit and cry my eyes out about how i feel and get everything out and he listens but never responds. he is a very quiet person and doesnt really talk about how he feels and i really wish he would. things are somewhat ok he has gotten off the computer some this week and has been watching tv with me but he doesnt seem to want to hold the baby that much. i dont know if he is scared of him or what. the baby is almost 6 months old and is trying to talk and sit up and trying to get into everything. i just dont want my husband to miss out on his life because of the computer game. i'm not going to give up not yet. i still think it can work we just have to get the hang of being new parents. i am just hoping that he will continue this not getting on the pc right away when he gets home and disappears into another world. he does good for a couple of weeks and then goes back to the game. i dont know why. its like it is more interesting then me.