Family Issues

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Registered: 09-09-2007
Family Issues
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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 2:49pm
I'm 17, I think I have serious issues with my family specially my mom, sometimes I feel like I don't love her, I don't know why, I don't even like spending time with her, I try to make a bond with her but I just hate the way she acts when I teel her something... I want to know why this happens?
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Registered: 12-11-2006
In reply to: kikibon
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 3:14pm
Just because you are born into a family doesn't mean that you will automatically get along or love them. What does your mother do that upsets you?
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Registered: 07-10-1999
In reply to: kikibon
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 3:56pm

I think what you're experiencing is very normal. When we're very young, we rely on our parents for support and are always happy to have them around. As we grow older and need them less, it's natural to want to pull away from them.

It doesn't mean you don't still love them. If one of your parents were to die tomorrow, I'd bet you'd still miss them much more than you realize. It's just that right now that love is hidden under the desire to push them away.

When you move away from home and see less of them, chances are they won't annoy you quite as much as they do now.

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Registered: 09-09-2007
In reply to: kikibon
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 4:55pm
the way she reacts after I tell her something, i.e. I told her that I had sex with my boyfriend, few months after I gained a little weigh, and she told me it was because of that I know it's not. If I tell her about stuff that happens in my life she'll later find a way to turn whatever I said against me.
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Registered: 09-09-2007
In reply to: kikibon
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:02pm
the question would be what to do while I get to leave? I live in mexico it's not the same as if I lived in the states, when we go to college specially women, it's not very usual for us to leave home, I know that the ansewer it's somewhere around there, like me leaving, I've been trying to leave for a year to study abroad, but they just say no, while they send my older sister I know that if I leave I'll for certain if living here is really what I want and need, cause I'll miss them or I won't miss them... and I do feel like leaving and starting my own life, but I still depend on them economically and I do want to go to college...so...
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Registered: 02-20-2007
In reply to: kikibon
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:38pm
I remember feeling that way about my mom too. It gets easier. Even if you don't go away to college or university you will eventually be on your own at some point; it would be great for them to let you go away to school and I think you should continue to fight for that. I hope it works out for you!