Family VS Boyfriend Which one?
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| Sat, 10-13-2007 - 9:04pm |
Lets see where to start well first of all I kicked my boyfriend of two years out of the house. Which I am starting to regret. I finally caved in and answered his calls. (See I kicked him out for lying.) So I moved out and let him have the house after all he was on the mortgage not me. And moved in with my family. But the problem is when I tried telling my family that I wanted to be friends with him and maybe try to think about working things out with him they went off by telling me if I ever spoke to him again then they wouldn't speak to me at all. I am over 23 years old and I don't think that I should be treated like I am a teenager anymore just because I am staying here. It was their idea for me to stay with them in the first place. I really don't want to hurt my family but I don't want to have to choose either and he is trying to make changes and is willing to go to counseling for me to try to make things work. And he is understanding about my family. He knows they don't like him and he doesn't want me to have to choose but he also says he doesn't want to loose me either. He does seem like he is trying to changes his ways how do I get my family to give him one more chance and support me and what I think is right. I love them both dearly and don't want anyone to get hurt or mad. I am stuck I just feel something deep down telling me that he is worth giving a second chance again. Please help me make my decision.

Welcome to the board me159,
What did he lie to you about? Have you had other problems in your relationship besides this? It is understandable that your family would dislike him since he hurt you. However, if you are willing to give him another chance they should support you.
Sorry. I don't really know enough details to be able to tell you to choose.
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Hi me159,
Here's your previous post from the other board:
Is he lying? Please help!!!
Have you read the book:
I think your parents' threat was made through exasperation.
You said he's going to counseling FOR YOU.
If he is going to counseling, and if you still value and care for him, there is nothing wrong with giving him a second chance. You are right, just because you are living with your family now, does not mean that they have the right to dictate your choices. Basically, they just want to see you happy and are worried about you. Do what you feel is right for you, but also, you don't have to discuss it with them. Behave as an independent adult. Don't come to them with your problems and feelings. Respect their feelings, but also respect yours. You can see him without his coming to your home and you can keep it quiet until you are very certain that this is going to work. If and when that happens, is time enough to let them know. Hopefully at that point the difficulties the two of you had will be ironed out. And, if you decide not to go forward with him, they won't have to go through the process with you.
Best wishes,
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