Feel like I don't see him enough

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Feel like I don't see him enough
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Tue, 03-02-2004 - 7:50pm
Hello....I am super happy with my boyfriend of 8 months. However, when we first started seeing each other, we would see each other usually twice during the week, sometimes more, and once on the weekends. Now we've settled into this routine: I go over Wednesdays after work, we hang out and watch TV and then I come home. I go over Saturday nights around 9:00 and sleep over and leave Sundays around 1:00. We talk every day on the phone. Friday nights we spend with our own friends and Mondays are his day off from work so I don't usually go over as he'll sometimes be out Monday nights. I was fine with this until recently when I started to feel like we don't spend ENOUGH time together. Is he really even my boyfriend if I only see him for a few hours during the week and spend a night with him on weekends? Am I just worrying about nothing?
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Registered: 05-20-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 8:05pm
Only you 2 can decide how much time is a good amount. Only the two of you can define your relationship and what works for you. Have you told him how you feel?

Why do you only see him after 9:00pm on Saturdays?

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 03-02-2004 - 9:00pm
I have been going through something very similar as you. Infact when I was reading your post it mirrored a post I had written here a month ago. We were only seeing eachother on weekends and at first it was fine but it became so routine and as we became closer I was really feeling like it wasn't enough yet he seemed fine with it. We kept sticking with the routine because of our jobs and we are so tired during the week. He puts in ten-twelve hour days so I felt like I'd be imposing if I asked for more of his time.

Well, I finally just told him how I felt and what I wanted. He responded positively and almost immediately started coming over during the week. It may only be a few hours more we get but it's a great start. So I suggest that to you: you simply need to tell him how you feel and what you want.

Jennifer

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